Say love, don't say love forever
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20 years ago we had a young soul. We love each other very much and disagree with each other, almost like we really lived for each other ... and that's my best time.
This morning, while arranging old mails, I happened to re-read a short poem by Jacques Prevert whose old friend had copied it on a letter with very beautiful flowers. The poem has five sentences that she put across two pages in a way that implies.
First page:
I am happy and free
Like light
Because yesterday he told me that he loves me
The last two sentences are pushed through the following page:
He did not say more
that he will love me forever ...
When I read this poem twenty years ago, I felt it with a young soul. Now, life that helps me look may be different from the poem on this yellowed paper.
The girl in the poetry was sensitive and delicate, because she did not wait until the person she loved turned back to realize that freedom "like light" was only a fragile freedom. Happiness "like light" is a happiness that can be turned off at any time.
But suppose the boy added that "will love forever", or swear a promise for a hundred years ... who dares to claim that his heart will not change? If you've ever read the Buffalo Fly, you may remember this passage: "Tying people is not an oath. As long as I feel self-indulgent about something, that's enough. ”
In addition to that "voluntary earnest", there is nothing bound to the human heart, so don't be sure that someone will never change. Nor can someone force a change. There is no absolute weapon or power in the world that can hold the heart once it is determined to turn. Whether it is beauty, a deep love, deep memories immersed. It's not about weakness, sharp ingenuity or gentle intelligence, wealth or pity ... Those things can hold a body, a mind ... but can't hold on to a heart .
The heart is a fragile and unstable creature. So believe in goodness, kindness, personality and energy ... but don't believe in the unchangingness of awareness and emotions in people. Believe that you are loved in this moment, but don't be sure that you'll be loved forever. If you leave room for change, you will avoid a lot of deep hurt.
I do not give faith as an invaluable gift to others. Because sometimes, trust turns out to be a very ... unilateral and irresponsible thing. It means catching the other person, regardless of the ability of the human heart to change. The belief is to dump the burden on other people, regardless of whether people will accept it or not. The identification or decision of the problem no longer relies on our caution, alertness, sanity or sensitivity, but completely entrusted to others. And if they change, we often in the name of the absolute trust that we have voluntarily sent to allow ourselves the right to be accused of them.
But, anyone can change.
The change of others, especially in extremely beloved people, certainly makes us vulnerable. But keep in mind that when a soldier is out of love, he is often cold. As the hermit Urabe Kenkô in the book of Nature Book wrote: "When the people of the morning are very familiar, there is nothing separating, suddenly one day they make a strange face and have an unusual gesture. Why is it so old like that now? ”According to me, that cold attitude proves that he is very decent and honest.”
In the end, that's the core of love, friendship and other intimate relationships. Honesty, not a permanent promise. You can love or hate. Like it or not like anymore. Just be honest, you will always be at ease.
I read the short poem once again in the old letter, and felt clearly the blame for the girl's bitter bitterness. But at least the girl in the poem knew that her lover was very sincere, when she did not promise something he did not believe. She also knew the human heart was a completely free creature, and a moment of blissful happiness was not an eternal promise.
My dear friend probably recognized that too, so wrote a pretty line at the bottom of the page, a short line that I could never forget:
"Say love, don't say love forever".
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